The creator of Mother’s Day wished she could un-create it because it became too commercial

Meet Anna Jarvis, the creator of Mother’s Day. She was a committed peace activist, having cared for both American and Confederate soldiers during the Civil War. When her mother (who had given birth to 11 children!) eventually died in 1905 after years of being cared for by her daughter, Jarvis began a campaign to celebrate mothers everywhere with a holiday devoted to them.

Anna Jarvis’ mother, Ann, had championed the idea of creating a “Mother’s Friendship Day” for mothers of Civil War soldiers on both sides decades earlier but the efforts had never come close to anything like a national holiday. And so Jarvis picked up where her late mother had left off.

After her mother’s passing, Jarvis, then an insurance company advertising editor, began to campaign for the holiday without success for years. The US Congress even scoffed at the proposal, saying that if they created a Mother’s Day, they would also have to create a Mother-In-Law’s Day too.

But a few years later Mother’s Days were celebrated in every single state and in 1914 President Woodrow Wilson dedicated the second Sunday in May an official Mother’s Day.

Mission accomplished for Ms Jarvis? Not quite.

A 1920s Hallmark greeting card for Mother’s Day

As celebration of Mother’s Day became more widespread (good!), various companies started cashing in on the trend (bad!). Hallmark started creating specialized Mother’s Day greeting cards in the 1920s, chocolate companies created Mother’s Day chocolates, and florists raised the prices on white carnations, Jarvis’ chosen symbol for the day. The day has been derided as a “Hallmark holiday.”

Eventually Jarvis called for the boycott of Mother’s Day because she felt it had been hijacked by commercial interests. She said:

“A printed card means nothing except that you are too lazy to write to the woman who has done more for you than anyone in the world. And candy! You take a box to Mother—and then eat most of it yourself. A pretty sentiment.”

Jarvis went on to protest the holiday, as TIME Magazine recounts:

Jarvis’ attacks on the commercialization of Mother’s Day became legendary. In 1922, Jarvis endorsed an open boycott against the florists who raised the price of white carnations every May. The following year, she crashed a retail confectioner convention to protest the industry’s economic gouging of the day.

She was, of course, unsuccessful in her repeal efforts of the holiday she created. But her perennial protests did not go unnoticed: Jarvis was eventually thrown in a mental hospital. And who paid the bills to keep her there? Representatives of the greeting card and floral industries, naturally!

As it happens, the activist Jarvis died fairly poor, after having inadvertently created a virtual economic stimulus day for various industries that continue to exploit them to this day. In modern times, the Americans spend a combined $20 billion on greeting cards, flowers, chocolates and more to celebrate the holiday.

As for Jarvis herself? She never got married or had children either; the mother of Mother’s Day wasn’t a mother herself. She died at age 84.